“Love is confusing! Love makes you not want the day to end but at the same time it makes you look forward to tomorrow.” ~ Tramaine Cavil
Have you been fighting for days?
Let us help you end your argument by telling you who's right and who's wrong.
Settle Our Argument!
The Fighters
Jennifer & Joshua
The Argument
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. We have lived together for 2 years. Things are good between us but we do have one argument that consistently develops. I love my family and enjoy being around them when the time permits but he doesn’t feel the same. He doesn’t dislike anyone in my family he just doesn’t see the need to be around them. My family often invites us over for barbeques, movie night, and for family time during the holidays. More times than I would like, I find myself going alone because my boyfriend refuses to go. This usually begins an argument between us because I want him to be apart of my family but he just refuses. Am I asking too much?
Who's Right?
Jennifer is right in this situation, as long as it’s not an every weekend visit. It’s beautiful when someone sees great value in their family. I’m not aware of any statistics but I would imagine that individuals that find value in their family and choose to spend time with their family on a consistent basis are more successful in creating and raising a family of their own. Good supportive families provide love, comfort, entertainment, guidance, and many more benefits so it’s understandable that you would want your boyfriend to share your experience. My only caution to you is for you to understand that it’s your family, not his. He hasn’t developed the bond that you have over the years, so cut him a little slack. He should share in your experience to support you but if the visits are very frequent it’s ok if he doesn’t participate 100% of the time.
Who's Wrong?
Joshua is wrong in this situation. A good relationship is based on many things but in this scenario the two things that are missing are acceptance and support. When you’re in a good relationship, your focus is on the good of the relationship and the happiness of your partner. When your partner has an interest or a goal, you accept it and you support it, regardless if you are in 100% agreement. It’s not about you anymore, it’s about “us”. There’s certain things you have to do to maintain a good relationship and sometimes that involves taking on an interest in which you were never interested. I’m sure Jennifer has done the same for you in some type of way. Be more supportive. Sacrifice, acceptance, and support are true signs of love. You will be appreciated for it.
© Copyright 2010 LoveFlu.com, All Rights Reserved | Contact Us | Site Map | Privacy Policy | Terms of Use
Love Advice / Romantic Ideas / Relationship Advice
Dating Advice for Couples & Singles
It’s Your Turn!
What Are You Arguing About?
What’s Your Argument?
|
WHERE TO NEXT? |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
More Fun! | |||
|
Advice |
Ask! |
Couples |
Love |