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Alexandra & Rodel
The Argument
My husband and I have always had a third party in our relationship. We’ve been together since 2002 but I always thought that he would change. We got married and we now have 2 children. This last time, he had an affair with his office mate. His friends even provided proof but he still denies it. All I want is for him to be honest with me, but still he denies it and also the girl hides and doesn’t want to talk to me. The reason why she won’t talk to me, I don’t know. For me, if they really have no relationship, why is the girl hiding and doing all she can not to talk to me? This is the reason we always quarreled in front of our kids until the kids and I eventually left our home. Am I wrong knowing what is real? Am I wrong leaving my husband?
Who's Right?
Alexandra is right in this situation. I am never a supporter of divorce or a marriage splitting up unless it’s due to abuse, infidelity, or any other negative habit that repeatedly attacks the core of the relationship which is love and trust. I believe everyone is allowed a screw up or two but it seems as though her husband’s actions are constant and are not consistent with someone that is in a loving marriage. Even though it’s horrible that kids are involved in this situation, Alexandra has every right to leave the person that violated her marriage and her trust.
What’s important to always remember is that someone has to look out for “your” best interests. It’s fantastic if you can marry someone that always has your best interest in mind so you don’t have to worry about it yourself. But if you marry someone that only has “their” best interests in mind, then you have to look out for your own best interests which usually means that you will be leaving the relationship soon.
Who's Wrong?
Rodel is wrong in this situation. Cheating on your wife is never the right thing to do and putting your kids in a situation in which their parents are living separately is even more wrong. In marriage, you think of your spouse first, your kids second, and then yourself last. In Rodel’s case, it seems as though he comes first when it comes to the decisions he makes. Being selfish while in the moment may seem like an alright thing to do, but when it’s all said and done, there are 3 other people that are devastated by your actions. What’s even worst is that the hurt from these actions are not short lived; a spouse as well as the kids can carry this heart ache with them for the rest of their lives. At the time it may seem like it’s worth the risk, but it usually never is.
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