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The One Amazing Secret for Men Getting What They Want in Bed

By

Elizabeth Washington

Almost every man's dream is to get exactly what he wants in bed. Hell, even women want this! Getting it, on the other hand, is a bit more difficult than simply pushing a button. Good sex and getting what you want requires a little bit of work and adjustments, but don't worry - it's really not rocket science. Besides, we all have to give a little to get a little.

So guys, what can you do to make your lover respond more to your needs in bed? Well, to sum it up in one simple word - communication.

I know that this can be a scary word for some guys, but in a situation where you’re not getting enough mind blowing sex in the bedroom, communication is a necessity. Even though sex can be a difficult topic to bring up, it is imperative for an active, healthy sex life. I am aware that not all men are lacking in the communication department, but let's face it - many guys would rather face a raging bull than talk out their relationship problems.

The easiest way to get what you want in bed is simple. Just ask! Sometimes it’s amazing what you’ll get in life if by simply asking a question.  Don't be blunt or crude about it. Be respectful. If the idea makes her uncomfortable, try and talk to her about it, but don't be pushy. Inquire as to why she is so reluctant to try this particular bedroom play or position, but if she doesn't want to try it, don't nag. She may just need a little time to think it over. Giving her the time to process your request will increase your chances of having your wish fulfilled.

Maybe you're still a little leery to bring up the sex conversation. It’s not the easiest topic to bring up especially if your woman is somewhat conservative. Yes it’s scary, but it needs to be done for the sake of both of you. If you're still uncomfortable, try buying a fun sex book. You can get these online or if you’re brave enough book stores generally have a nice assortment of fun and informative sex books. Find a book that contains the position or moves that you would like to try, and buy it. Look at it together with your lover, but make sure she knows that there is no pressure. Let her know it's something that you thought both of you could enjoy together. While looking at the book, you'll be able to gauge her reactions on different sex positions and situations. These books work wonders on getting sex discussions going and you may even be surprised at what she has to say.

Never criticize your lover for anything when you are talking about sex. If you do, this will come back and bite you later on! Most women are very self-conscious and insecure. They want to please their lover in bed, but hearing negative criticism won't help matters at all. Criticism will make a woman feel as though she isn't adequate enough to please you anymore, and the sex will usually diminish. This is not what you’re shooting for, in fact, it is the opposite of what you're trying to accomplish.

Remember to always keep any conversations about sex light and fun. Sex is supposed to be fun, so let's try to keep it that way, shall we?

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