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When “I Love You” Isn’t Enough
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Living Together
Without Getting On Each Others Nerves
By
George Ellis
Congratulations on your decision to move in with your partner! The decision was probably a long time coming, and was almost surely the culmination of endless nights of debate and consideration. Nevertheless, moving in together was the option that obviously won out in the end, and you should be happy and excited to finally be living under the same roof as your loved one.
Of course, you may find that moving in together is not without its fair share of challenges and difficulties, and you may wonder whether or not you made the right decision after all. Staying over for a few nights is one thing, but living in the same limited space for months and months is bound to wear thin from time to time. It is therefore important to identify those issues that can make your relationship a lot more difficult, so that you can take steps to address them as early as possible.
One of the best ways to ensure that you and your partner don’t end up at each other's throats is by giving each other plenty of leeway to be who you want to be…and we don’t mean physical space obviously. Resist the urge to control your partner with regard to how they dress, work, or carry out their goals. Doing so will allow you to have a happy and satisfied partner, which itself can only mean one thing: harmony at home. If you take the opposite route and become a domineering and controlling partner, you run the risk of ruining a good thing.
It’s extremely important to wrap your mind around the concept that you’re living with someone else. Yes, it’s obvious that there’s another human being under the same roof as you, but it’s about mind set as well. Leaving dishes everywhere and throwing your clothes on the floor while living alone is tolerable, because you’re the only person that has to navigate around the destruction. When you’re living with someone else, old habits need to be broken, and quickly. Treat your home as if you’re not the only one in it, and you will eliminate a lot of potential arguments.
If your partner has any type of life outside of you, you may want to find a life as well. Living separately allows certain freedoms that can be stripped away once your new roommate/lover invades your space. Previously, your lover was only up under you whenever the two of you found time to be together. Now they’re just up under you. It’s always good to have a hobby to allow you some time to yourself or more importantly, allow your partner time to themselves. You don’t want to drive them crazy! Get a hobby or a friend and do your own thing every now and again.
Sometimes, the best way to win an argument is by not arguing at all. Remember that it takes two people to get an argument going, and if one partner simply leaves the other to cool down a bit, the conflict will often resolve itself. This doesn’t mean that you should automatically up and walk away when faced with any conflict mind you, but you do have to choose your battles and decide whether or not it is in your best interest to simply leave well enough alone. Choosing not to fight allows you to gain the advantage of less conflict as well as the satisfaction that comes from taking the high ground. For many people, that should be enough to keep the relationship going smoothly for the long-term.
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Now that you moved in together, how do you keep the relationship on steady ground? Read our relationship advice to help you become a better roommate and partner.