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Early Signs That You May Be Headed Towards a Divorce

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Tramaine Cavil

Even though I rarely ask for driving directions even when I’m hopelessly lost, I’ve always found it amusing the types of directions I get when I finally do ask.  One time a guy told me, “About 2 miles up this road you’re going to come to a fork.  If you go left, the road is going to turn into a dirt road which is going to be very bumpy.  There’s a lot of debris in the road that you’re going to have to maneuver around but once you get past that you’ll come to a bridge that is out so don’t go left at the fork.  That’s the wrong way.  You’ll want to go right.”

I didn’t quite understand why he just didn’t tell me to go right in the first place but when I apply marriage to this situation I get what he was trying to accomplish.  If you were asking for directions in your marriage, it’s good to know the proper path to marriage bliss but you also need to understand that once you start seeing certain things in your path, that you’re going in the wrong direction and you need to immediately turn around in order to go in the right direction.

Here are signs that you’re headed in the wrong direction and maybe headed towards divorce instead of marriage bliss.

You’re Drawn to Others

People in relationships that are going bad find themselves being drawn to people that provide them with what they’re missing at home.  A person that doesn’t have a spouse that listens will be drawn to the person at work that always seems concerned and is always there to listen to their thoughts and ideas.

You’re Starting to think of “What If” Scenarios

If you’re beginning to think of things like, “What if I moved out, where would I live?” or “What if I was single again, would it be hard to find someone new?” Thoughts like these are signs that you are thinking about your options if by chance your marriage ends in divorce.  If you’re thinking about it, it may possibly mean you want it.

The Last Place You Want to Go is Home

If while everyone else in your department is getting excited because 5 o’clock is right around the corner but your dreading getting off work because you have to go home and be in the same space as your spouse, there’s a good chance you’re in a very unhappy relationship.

Nothing Is Done Right / Fights Over the Smallest Things

In your eyes your spouse can’t do anything right or they may feel the same about you.  Everything that they do gets under your skin and you find yourselves fighting over the most minuscule things. You used to find sweet things to say to them but now you look for things to say that hurt them.

You Have Plans But It’s Definitely Not With Your Spouse

You used to do everything together.  It was like you were a team but now days everything you plan is without each other.  You no longer look at trips outside the house as an opportunity to share an experience together but as an opportunity to get away from each other.

There’s Nothing to Talk About and If You Do Talk It’s Forced

You’re passing each other in the hallways without a second look and when you happen to be in the same room together you don’t even acknowledge each other.  “Hey” has replaced, “Hey Honey, you’re home! How was your day?”  It irritates you like no other when you’re forced to talk to each other.

Sex is the Very Last Thing On Your Mind

You don’t even want to be in the same room as your spouse let alone make passionate love to them.  Your sexual desires only appear in your dreams or are reserved for that hot person you’ve been drawn to lately.  Your spouse just doesn’t do it for you anymore.

If you’ve found that any of the above scenarios pertain to your relationship, then at some point you took a left at the fork in the road when you should have taken a right.  Don’t fret, there’s enough room for you to turn around so that you can go back to the fork and take the right road to marital bliss.  It may be a long road to get things back to where they need to be but if your marriage and/or family are important enough to you, the long journey will all be worth it.

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Divorce rates remain high so you have to keep an eye out to gauge the success of your marriage. Read our marriage advice to help you determine if you’re headed for a divorce.

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