When you’re interested in approaching a woman the first thing you want to do is evaluate how you are going to go about it. Life teaches you that if you want to achieve any goal in life, you should always approach it with a plan. You need to think about the way you are going to approach her and how you’re going to initiate the conversation. It’s those men that approach women without any thought involved that make fools out of themselves and that end up crashing and burning. Think about how to avoid any awkwardness or moments of silence, those are the worst! You do not want her to think that you’re a bore and that you have nothing else to talk about.
Another thing that you don’t want to do is start out with a cheesy pick up line that you found on the Internet. It may be funny and clever to you but that may have more to do with you being an idiot. Women get approached with these lines a lot and it’s why women think “most” guys are jerks. Be original and genuine and just be you, and leave the adolescent pick up lines for your buddies.
The best thing to always remember is that women love confidence in a man so try to be as confident as you possibly can. We understand it’s nerve racking approaching a women because you have a 50% chance that you’re going to be sent away with your tail between your legs, but don’t openly offer us reasons not like you immediately by being nervous. Guys we thought that would never have had a chance with us, have won us over by being confident and likeable.
Approach confidence as if it were a big yellow yield sign, with caution! Be aware that there is a fine line between confidence and cocky and cocky just doesn’t do it for us fellas. Cocky men are simply a major turn off. Make sure that you have the perfect mix of confidence and genuineness so as not to scare her away.
Lastly, be original and don’t be so intent on letting us know how beautify or sexy we are. We realized that before we left the house and in case we would have forgotten, the first 6 guys that approached us reminded us of it. We’re people, not objects, and we simply want to be liked for who we are not what we are or what we look like. Don’t be Shallow Hal! We understand that physical attraction is what brought you over but if your whole focus is on our looks and not on the conversation and in getting to know us, then we’re about to find a reason to end this conversation.